Why Does My Child Hold It Together at School and Melt Down at Home?

Why Does My Child Hold It Together at School and Melt Down at Home?

The 4:00 p.m. version of your child is not the whole story

Maybe your child’s teacher says they are doing fine.

Maybe they are polite. Quiet. Helpful. Focused enough. Maybe they are even the kid who gets described as “a joy to have in class.”

Then they get in the car, walk through the front door, or hear one tiny request—shoes off, wash hands, please don’t yell at your brother—and suddenly everything explodes.

Crying. Rage. Silence. A demand for snacks immediately. A refusal to speak. A meltdown over the wrong cup, the wrong socks, the fact that you breathed in their general direction.

And you are left wondering: How can they be so “fine” at school and so impossible at home?